Setting Goals

RELATIONSHIPS

by Laura Interval

“Treat your family like friends and your friends like family.” -proverb

Your relationships with your partner, parents, children and friends are your primary personal relationships and arguably the most important aspect of your life. If these relationships are not what they should be, you will feel out of balance. By clearly defining how you would like these relationships to be, you can start to implement the changes to improve them.

So, what kind of personal relationships do you have or need?

I am not going to ask you to do a timeline for personal relationship goals but, I do want you to write them down. As with the other goal workshops writing them gives you a clear picture of where you are, where you want to be and gives you power to make it happen.

For example, if you don’t have a significant other, by clearly defining who that person is and what qualities you want that person to have, you will have taken the biggest step towards attracting them into your life. I'm a big believer in this. I did this exercise two years ago and a year later, I met my perfect partner. As a result of being clear on what I wanted in my life and writing this person down as though he were real, he appeared in my life.

So as you start to write, I want you to consider:

Partner:
what is your dream partner like?
What does he/she look like?
How does he/she talk?
Are they funny?
What do they believe in?
How will they treat you?
What are their interests?
Who are you with them?

By writing your partner down, you release your intention to the universe and to your subconscious self. This draws your partner to you and gives you the ability to recognize them when they walk through your door.

If you already have a partner:
what are your goals for improving your relationship?

Again, the exercise here is to WRITE DOWN these specific goals that you want to achieve within your relationships. A generalized desire to have a “better” relationship or to have the “perfect” partner isn’t strong enough. But a list of specific goals becomes a powerful map that will lead you to where you want to be.

Also consider children, parents, siblings and friends:
Can you improve your relationships?
What kind of friend are you?
Do your friendships nurture you and enhance your life?
Is there something left unsaid or undone that needs your attention?

Look back over you personal relationship goals. Are you satisfied with what you have decided for yourself? Are you clear on what will make you happy and who you need in your life?

How do you feel? Did you answer these questions honestly? Are you leaving someone or something out? If you did these goals fully, you may feel a little emotional and exhausted! But you should also feel inspired and revved. You are now in the top percentile of achievers . . . just having written down your goals!

Reminder:
Now, keep this paper with you. The crazy thing is, we forget. We get busy, distracted, thrown off course by the inevitable surprises that LIFE brings us. Find a way to remind yourself of your goals daily. It takes practice.

I developed my morning TASK to keep me on track. This technique grounds me every morning and guides every decision I make now.

Find the technique that works for you and do it, everyday and before you know it, it will be habit. Who you want to be will become who you are.

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